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Let’s Talk About Sex!!!

Or the songs that provoke us to want to have it, or throw our hands in the air with excitement like Marvin to the left…Or maybe even make that face Teddy P is making below.

Please note: I can’t speak on behalf of the Woodstocks (birds that Sista Toldja mentioned in her hilarious post) that want to be *saved* on their first date and will be grumpy if dude didn’t spend his whole check in the first getup. This is on behalf of upwardly mobile chicks with their own shit that actually want to get to know YOU…

I talk to a lot of dudes about what they think makes a good first impression on a woman, which then translates to a lasting impression. And I find it cute the responses I get from them about preparation for a hot date. Reservations? Mm-hmm. Fresh Caesar? Check. Carwash? Got that. A hint of some cologne another female probably copped for you? Roger. All suited and booted and ready to go. Those things do matter, but the one element of importance that gets swept under the radar is the main thing that has made a man SEXY to many women: his music collection. Especially, the music playing in the whip on the first date. We abide, and don’t touch a black man’s radio, but sometimes we sure want to.

You want to be alluring in a non-contrived way. Case in point, this kid picked me up and he had all these cheesy R & B songs playing. Joe’s “I Wanna Know” was an example. I think he even slid Rueben Studdard in here *ouch*. I couldn’t help but think in my head, “Hmmm it’s not even dark out yet. Is this supposed to be sexy? Is he trying to put me in the mood? Groan” Stevie or Donny would have done the job better.

I can’t tell you how important musical taste is in terms of making or breaking a developing interest. There are dudes out there that are so one-track-minded with music that it’s nauseating. Another cat was stuck in the quicksand of Jeezy, Rick Ross and Freeway. Cool artists, but all those “Yeeeaaahhhhs” and “That’s riiiiggghhhts” made me loose some brain cells. I played “Go Go Gadget Gospel” by Gnarls Barkley and he was like “Ugh what the fuck is that? Turn it off…” I curled up my upper lip and barked “Why so we can play JEEZY again?”

It’s cool if you don’t want to hear my music all day. Fine. But a man that’s not open-minded about music is such a turn off to me. Be an adult about it you don’t have to complain (like the anonymous kids on this site shit talking). No one expects you to like EVERYTHING, give your opinion and keep it moving. Bleh! I say all the above to open the forum about sexy music…

We all have those joints that just take us to that place. They provoke the imaginary microphone and the sultry body rolls in boy shorts (dunno what men like to do). Maybe even a Tweet “Oh My” moment…These fantasy songs give a dude cool points if he plays em’. I could never count them all, but here is my current Sexy Soundtrack. I’d love to hear yours.

In no particular order but asterisks by the favorites:

1. “So Good” Pharaoh Monch***
2. “Leisure Suite” Feist
3. “She Lives in My Lap” Andre 3000
4. “Addiction” Kanye***
5. “The Panties” Mos Def***
6. “Backstroke” Teedra Moses***
7. “Come Live with Me” Marvin Gaye (I Want You is the Illest Album)***
8. “Tempo Slow” R. Kelly…don’t sleep!
9. “And If” Sa-Ra
10. Screwed version “Rock the Boat” Aaliyah***
11. “Portuguese Lover” Tina Marie
12. “Sparkle” Camp-Lo***
13. “Can U Handle It” Usher
14. “It’s Getting Late” and “Imagination” Floetry
15. “Remedy” Jagged Edge
16. “Kissing You” Total
17. “Tonight’s The Night” Betty Wright***

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16 Comments to Let’s Talk About Sex!!!

1. 

   true that… you can even through in some old school joints like “i need love” or “ms fat booty”.
tnygirl on September 10th, 2007
2. 

   Awww man! You already mentioned seven of my favorite tracks. LOL! This was a difficult list for me to come up with, but here it goes (in no particular order with my faves in bold):

   1. Janet Jackson – “Anything”
   2. Raphael Saadiq – “Ask of You”
   3. Carl Thomas – “Lady Lay Your Body”
   4. Corrine Bailey Rae – “Enchantment”
   5. Dwele – “Lay It Down”
   6. SV feat. Dwele – “Closer”
   7. SV – “Climax (Girl Shit!)”
   8. Isley Brothers – “Let’s Fall in Love”
   9. Jon B. – “Pretty Girl”
   10. Angie Stone – “You’re Gonna Get It”
   11. Stevie Wonder – “Send One Your Love”
   12. Lauryn Hill & D’Angelo – “Nothing Even Matters”
   13. After 7 – “Ready or Not”
   14. Art of Noise – “Moments in Love”…THE QUIET STORM VERSION IS THE DEAL!
   15. Dru Hill – “Beauty (Remix)”
   16. Pharrell – “Take It Off (Dim the Lights)”
   17. Al B. Sure – “Oooh This Love Is So”
   18. Toni Braxton – “The Art of Love”
   19. Tamia – “Can’t No Man”
   20. Madeleine Peyroux – “Blue Alert”
Desmon on September 10th, 2007
3. 

   OMG how could I forget Moments in Love…Quiet Storm. Totally the anthem for all late night radio stations. “Dim the Lights” is my shit too .
*Maiya* on September 10th, 2007
4. 

   Although I like the album version of “Rock the Boat”, I just downloaded the screwed version, and it is hot!
Desmon on September 10th, 2007
5. 

   GIIIIRL! PREACH!!!!!

   And you had some of my faves on your list too.

   1) Come Live With Me- Marvin (YES! Girl, this song kept me going back to a bad situation cause he had the CD and knew when to play it! Plus, he sold Cali weed, lols.)

   2) Fly Me-Next Evidence f/N’dea Davenport- (rare, but essential!)

   3) Till The Cops, Submerge and Softly, Softly- Maxwell

   4)Anytime, Anyplace and Funny How Time Flies-Janet Jackson

   5)I Can’t Help It and Lady In My Life-Michael Jackson

   6) In Here-Cherrywine

   7)Let’s Fall In Love-The Isley Bros.

   Slow Wine-Tony Toni Tone

   9) Electric Relaxation-Tribe

   10)So Fine-Mint Condition

   11) Kissing You- Keith Washington

   12) Ooh, This Love Is So-Al B Sure

   13) Damn near every Jodeci single.

   14) Love and Appreciate-Murs

   15) Sex Packets-Digital Underground

   16)Crush-Zhane

   17) Say Yes, Getting Late-Floetry

   18) The Panties-Mos Def

   19) Again, Lifted and Save Room-John Legend

   20)Kissing You-Total

   21) Baby, Come To Me-Regina Belle

   I could do this all day, I live for sex songs.
Sister Toldja on September 10th, 2007
6. 

   A true sexytime professional never exposes his arsenal! lol!
$ulaiman on September 10th, 2007
7. 

   OMG ST Crush by Zhane…OMG that was my middle school jawn. LOL Suli! OK PIMPIN. But you’re already exempt from wack-music-nigga syndrome.

   3 more:
   “Where you Are” Rahsaun Patterson

   “Love Jones” Bobby Digital

   “CREAM” Wu. I actually had a cropped Caramel Sundae shirt in conjunction with my Lil’ Kim shades… I confess.
*Maiya* on September 10th, 2007
8. 

   My list is en route. No Brandon Hines? I’m shocked!
   Here I Am? Sex Message? 10? Wilin.

   And NO WHERE NEAR enough R. Kelly.
$ulaiman on September 10th, 2007
9. 

   My list has a bit of sex, love, and fuck in it!
   Here Goes:
   Adina Howard – Nasty Grind
   Avant – Read Your Mind
   Bilal – Queen Of Sanity
   Brandon Hines – Here I Am
   Brandon hines – Overdose
   Brandon Hines – 10
   D’Angelo – Really Love
   D’Angelo – One Mo’gin
   D’Angelo – Untitled (How Does It Feel)
   Daft Punk – Something About Us
   Dru Hill – Beauty
   Dwele – Jimmy Down
   Dwele – Old Lovas
   Eric Roberson – Softest Lips
   Eric Roberson – Pretty Girl
   Feist – Leisure Suite
   Floetry – Say Yes
   Foxy Brown x Blackstreet – Gotta Get You Home Tonight
   H-Town – Knocking The Boots
   Incubus – Aqueous Transmission
   Isley Brothers – For The Love Of You
   Isley Brothers – Don’t Say Goodnight
   Jamiroquai – Everyday
   Jamiroquai – Spend A Lifetime
   Janet Jackson – Anytime Anyplace
   Janet Jackson – Would You Mind
   Jon B x 2Pac – Are U Still Down
   Jodeci – Feenin’
   John Legend – Again
   Justin Timberlake – Take It From Here
   Keri Hilson – Come Clean
   Lloyd – Incredible
   One Chance x Trey Songz x Lloyd x Bobby Valentino – Look At Her (Remix)
   Massive Attack – Teardrop
   Mos Def – Climb
   Black Star – Brown Skin Lady
   The Roots x Musiq – Break You Off
   NERD – Am I High
   Ne-Yo – Mirror
   NERD – Run To The Sun
   B.I.G. – One More Chance (Remix)
   One Chance – So Emotional
   Andre 3000 – Prototype
   One Chance – Take It Off
   P & The Yessirs – Take It Off
   Play & Skills – Freaks
   Pretty Ricky – On The Hotline
   R. Kelly – The Greatest Sex
   R. Kelly – It Seems Like You’re Ready
   R. Kelly – Slow Wind
   Ray-J – Melody
   Red Hot Chili Peppers – Porcelain
   Robin Thicke – I Need Love
   Robin Thicke – Lost Without You
   The Roots – Silent Treatment
   Roy Ayers – Sunshine
   Sade – Cherish The Day
   Sade – By Your Side (Neptunes Remix)
   Silk – Meeting In My Bedroom
   Teedra Moses – Backstroke
   Tony Toni Tone – Lay Your Head On My Pillow
   Trey Songz – Wonder Woman (girls like it!)
   A Tribe Called Quest – Electric Relaxation
   Twista – Get It Wet
   Tyrese – Signs Of Lovemaking
   Usher – Can You Handle It?
   Usher – Dot Com
   112 – Sweet Love
   112 – Cupid

   and the last one just cause….

   Three 6 Mafia – Still Gettin My D*ck Sucked
   I know. OD. But it’s a great song.
$ulaiman on September 11th, 2007
10. 

    Hmmm, My cd’s got stolen. So I usually just let any podcast from http://www.playaphiplaya.net roll.. It breaks the ice for me everytime! Trust! It’s all r&B and Hip-hop love songs… I’m mostly on your blog and their podcasts… Work s everytime. Not a shameless plug.
Anonymous on September 11th, 2007
11. 

    Remain Anonymous says: Now the music, I think of it as an accessory like hats. It’s as much the necessity a tasteful watch is on a first date (timing is everything). I do it differently every time, so the music I play changes to tailor to the lady’s taste. Similar to how cologne should switch with the season or style of clothing. Easy for me because I like a lot of things. I’ve probably had the chance to get in depth with her in regards to many things if I’m going out for an evening with her (musical tastes I never outright asked, but I listened well). So hmmm, Saturday night’s playlist will do.

    Jill Scott -”Whenever You’re Around”
    Frankie Beverly/Maze -”Reason”
    Minnie Riperton -”Inside My Love”
    Esthero -”Lounge”
    Al B. Sure -”Noche y Dia”
    Devin The Dude -”Too Cute”
    Basic Black -”Special Kinda Fool”
    EW&F -”Love’s Holiday”
    Mint Condition -”Forever In Your Eyes”
    Luther Vandross -”Superstar/Until You”
    Slum Village -”Count the Ways”
    Jill Scott – “Crown Royal”

    By the time the Jill is playing, it’s on. I’m back at the palace, night capping some good conversation. I have a glass of Crown Royal on ice. Her, a glass of wine. And then… In other words… Happy ending, for the unimaginative.

    It was cool. Usually I’m more eclectic with the music.
Anonymous on September 11th, 2007
12. 

    Ayyo, this is so not fair. I feel like y’all just tapped into my “Sexy-Music-4-few-only” collection .
    This is so crazy, Im taking aback to the point I can’t even come up with much right now… I’m so loving this.
    And if you notice, with the right music, right person, right set of mind and maturity, conversation, connection, and every other thing tends to just flow without much assistance when Sexy-Musics like these are in the background. And y’all find yourselves smiling… I mean genuinely smiling, and God save u if u were to let your thoughts loose at such moments… You don’t wish to overwhelm people of the first meeting

    In the Beginning there was word, a form of sound which emphasized on communication and interaction.

    En-route with my list.

    Need to go find my special tapes. I dont even have them yet on CDs, nope. They’re on cassettes still.
iQuest on September 11th, 2007
13. 

    so why don’t you make that list into a compilation, and put it for download like all th other posts.
    theres no love on that end?
    holla.
word on September 11th, 2007
14. 

    I can’t believe I forgot the ULTIMATE sexy track. “Pillow Talk
    by Sylvia.

    And yes Word, thanks to you a lightbulb went off. The Blind Eyes might benefit from a sexy soundtrack…
*Maiya* on September 11th, 2007
15. 

    Oh yea, we def. need a Blind I sexy soundtrack.
MC on September 12th, 2007
16. 

    Hell yeah! I didnt know anyone here was up on that playaphiplaya.net shit. Those cats are on constant rotation in my ipod and at home. It’s always a conversation piece! Good looking on that one!
PrettyToney on September 12th, 2007

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